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As I wrote in another posting, our family physician told me that I need to hold my husband responsible for things. That he is not an in-valid and should take responsiblity for his action or lack of action. Exactly how do you do this? He is an adult not a child. I can't punish him if he doesn't do something that is his responsiblity or that he agreed to do.

I previously posted this in the "Organization" forum w/o any responses, . . . So I am pasting it up here with hope I might get some of your thoughts on this real problem.  This really is about the lack of joy in my marriage with respect to leisure time,

Thanks in advance!

Springerswimmer

My husband has not been diagnosed.  We have been struggling for years, I have walked away, and told him that he needs to figure things out for himself.

He suggested that we go to counselling together.  He had an appointment with the counsellor before our meeting and she hinted that he could be ADHD.  He has since done a lot of online research, and has made an appointment with the family doctor.  He has taken the online surveys, and has self-diagnosed that he is ADD/ADHD.

Well first, I'm new here. My husband was recently diagnosed with ADD and he actually sent me articles off of the blog. I was shocked when I read them because it was like they had come straight out of my head. While I am happy that my husband is taking things seriously, and is experimenting with some meds (per his doctor's recommendations), I am still struggling with dealing with him.

Has anybody had to deal with a spouse who has become more and more religious and now less tolerant of my beliefs to the point of considering me a non believer of God?  He keeps changing the rules of how he lives his life and expects me to follow.

My husband has ADD, we agree on that. And he's been willing to get treatment, and also marriage counseling. (Whether it's doing any good is anyone's guess)

rant: 'lousy excuse for ripping off one's future biochemically and characteristically can't have friendships/relationships for not starting with the get of diagnosed..

In reviewing the logs of the site, I noted that today some of our registered users were having their comments categorized as SPAM, and either being asked to enter a CAPTCHA code and/or having their comment banned altogether.  I just made some configuration changes to the site to eliminate any SPAM checking by those of you who have registered. My sincere apologies to those who have experienced trouble (this means you newfdogswife, amongst others).  I have you SPAM filtered comments in the database logs.  I will dig them out and post them soon.

Why is it so tough to figure out what to do with leisure time or, more-to-the-point, "non-work" time?  Certainly I am challenged at work (Organization, decision-making, and short-term memory are daily struggles) but the real issue for me (and my wife of 36 years) is what happens (or more accurately, what does not happen) during my week-ends and other days off, never mind vacations.   

I'm new here.  I am a husband with highly suspected but undiagnosed ADD.  For 15 years I have been torturing my wife.  I want to stop.  It is so hard to write this because I have no clue what I am doing.  I am a trial lawyer.  I have been extremely successful, but untile recently I did not know what caused me to miss many deadlines and cause problems with my clients>  It takes all my energy all day to complete the tasks that I have to at work.  I zone in and out and jump from one exciting task to another.  I have written boards that help me through the day.