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Like most people on this site, I have been to hell and back with my ADHD spouse.  After much discussion, I believe that he is finally beginning to understand how his ADHD is affecting me.  I am hopeful that I have finally reached him (fingers crossed).  I basically let him know that unless something changed immediately that i was ready to leave the marriage.  He is now trying to learn techniques to make him more empathetic.  He is writing things down so that he doesn't forget.  He's trying to hold himself accountable for delivering on his promises.  He has stopped demanding "over-the-top" s

I'm a man, 42 yrs with ADHD, getting divorced ... my thread is here:  http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/find-volunteer-slapper-your-husband-and-reason

A theory on perhaps why some people are in denial or refuse to get help for their ADHD diagnoses.    Did they grow up having a parent that was an alcoholic?    Here is my re-post on this subject.... maybe this helps someone trying to find answers....

Many non-adhd spouses are sad, angry, frustrated.  I know I'm depressed and ADHD is ruining my marriage and my overall wellbeing.  What techniques, actions, strategies can you offer (whether your non-ADHD or ADHD) in dealing with an ADHD spouse?    Are there skills I can learn to help me manage my relationship, my husband, my own emotions/reactions towards my ADHD husband.  I think hearing both sides are important...I want to build a more positive, healthier, stable life and solid partnership without being a doormat?  It's difficult to explain but things only work when I make myself vulnera

Hello everyone... came across this quote and I immediately reflected upon my ADHD and its problems upon my marriage.

"The greatest gift you can give another is the purity of your attention." - Richard Moss

My husband was diagnosed with ADD a few months ago, just after our marriage fell apart and we separated. He thinks that a non-ADD specialist therapist and some pills are all he needs to fix his problem, and it's only a "minor" problem at that. So, you could say he's deep in denial. But this isn't exactly rare with ADD husbands, as so many of us know too well.

My husband is very selfish, often misreads my actions/words, doesn't ever have empathy or sympathy for other people.  Put it this way...someone dies...he'll laugh.  He also is highly defensive and always looking to argue.  He likes it...I think he's comfortable being angry.  He's very disrespectful to me...not sure why I still stay.  Do people with ADHD have low Emotional IQ? 

Hello!

I am 41 years old and comes from Norway..I have been using ritalin for about 4-5 months. I have used 20mg 3 times a day quite sometime but know I have started to use 25 mg 3 times a day by my own choice..I have read that 60mg is the maximum dose. I wounder if 75mg ritalin is dangoures since the maximum dose now are 15mg more?

I would also like to say hello to everybody on this forum:-)

ADHD

My wife and I have been together for about two and a half years. We werent together for very long before we got married, as she had a three year old daughter and I wanted to quickly become her father. Many times she has told me she has ADD and has been on medication for it for many years. I never truly understood what the effect of the ADD was on our marriage.

It has been just over a year since I wrote the posts on this site.  This stie was a god sent when I was going through so very much with my ADD husband.  While I wished for a happy ending, that I did not get… it was a pleasant surprise when I received notice that someone had posted to my long ago writings; just the other day.

For the last 20 years, vacations with my ADD husband have been a nightmare.  I've sworn several times that I would never take a vacation with him again.  We tried taking separate vacations, overlapping vacations, and mini-vacations in order to try to finesse this problem, but none of these were very satisfactory for various reasons.  There are a lot of things we like about vacationing together, so we'd try again to make it work.

Several things that we've implemented in the last several years contributed to the success of this most recent vacation.