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Got it! Go ahead and think you’re doing everything you can to solve your problems then.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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Then you need to show him or her this thread, and let your therapist point out your issues. You can’t fix your marriage unless you fix YOU. That’s not your wife’s job. As I said before, the responsibility to fix yourself is solely up to YOU.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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Corrections? Or denials? You are DEEP in denial. See an individual therapist for your issues. These issues are not your wife’s responsibility to fix. The responsibility lies solely with you.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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I quoted your own words back to you and you accuse me of gaslighting??? You need to become more self aware because you are projecting all over the place here. Perhaps you need a lot more individual counseling before you attempt marriage counseling. You are nowhere ready to be the kind of husband you yourself said your wife needs. You said she needs you to be aware of her feelings and of how much your behaviors have hurt her. You’re just repeatedly defending your actions here, implying that you’ve...>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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“I'm craving sex and intimacy with my wife constantly. In addition to that craving, I find myself becoming angry at my wife for seemingly refusing to make any attempt to improve our sex life together.” “ I feel trapped in a sexless marriage, and that feeling of being trapped is creating anger, anxiety, and, if I'm honest, a temptation to find a way to fulfill my needs outside of my marriage even though I don't want to pursue it. I feel unloved, undesired, and lonely, and those feelings so quickly...>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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“I'm craving sex and intimacy with my wife constantly. In addition to that craving, I find myself becoming angry at my wife for seemingly refusing to make any attempt to improve our sex life together.”>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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I’m sure your wife can sense your growing anger and resentment about living in a sexless marriage…. unless she’s in a coma. If you want intimacy in a committed relationship with your spouse and not just sex, why would you tell us you are considering going outside the marriage for sex???? Please stop with the personal insults like calling me a liar and accusing me of gaslighting. Quit gaslighting yourself. The truth is that you just don’t like what I’m telling you. If this is how you argue with your...>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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That rather confirms my instincts. You won’t get back to a satisfying sex life while she’s still seething. That’s where the work has to go; dispelling her anger, making her feel happy and relaxed and trusting. And that really has to be about her, and the two of you as a couple, not as parents or householders. Good luck.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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Can’t you see that she can sense your anger? You can’t “stifle it”, it’s obvious to us who are complete strangers. Your wife can definitely sense your anger, simmering just under the surface, ready to explode if she says or does the wrong thing. You need to focus on addressing your anger, not just stuffing it. It still bleeds through into everything you’re trying to accomplish. Also, personal insults like a jab about “reading comprehension” shows that you’re not willing to actually face your...>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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You want sex, and you’re so angry you’re not getting it from your wife, that you said you are thinking about getting it elsewhere. Your wife is not a machine who can stuff her feelings and have sex if she’s not comfortable, she’s obviously not getting her emotional needs met, but you are blaming us for telling you like it is from the wife’s point of view. You need to look at YOURSELF instead of blaming us for not telling you what you want to hear. You act like none of us have feelings. Women were not...>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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You said yourself that whatever you’re doing is not working with your wife. So you need to do something different. If you react to your wife like you’re reacting to us, you will find it very hard to make any progress. As a woman, I can tell you there is no bigger turnoff than a man angrily demanding sex.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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