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You had adhd before you met her, and you will still have adhd after she’s gone. I’m talking about your behaviors, not her reactions to them. Spouses normally expect reliability and honesty from each other. So if you are not reliable, and she reacts negatively to your behavior, that’s a normal response from her. If it’s not what you would like, that’s on you, not her. Remember the term “garbage in, garbage out”? If you treat your spouse badly for years, you’re likely to have a troubled relationship....>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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Responding to your last question here because the thread has gotten too narrow for me to click "Reply". I'm not going to claim that my behavior is due to my wife. I will quote from Melissa's book though: "While the tendency is to blame ADHD for all of your problems, this is not actually the case. ADHD symptoms create unexpected, and often insidious, stresses on marriage, as well as many misunderstandings. The destruction comes form a full pattern, though--one that includes the symptoms, the...>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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Then tell me how your behavior is HER fault?????>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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"That you are responsible for breaking." Here it is. Finally it's in the open. You think an ADHD person is solely to blame for "breaking" the heart of their spouse. No wonder then that you're so quick to project.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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No, I'm afraid of wasting their time like you've wasted mine. It's interesting that you assume I haven't brought up thier anger I've been talking about to my therapist. It's indicative of how you have a pre-decided idea of what my behavior is like that you're unwilling to divert from. I have said almost exactly what I initially posted to my therapist before.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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If I’m wasting your time, why do you keep replying? You don’t seem to realize how much work it takes to mend a heart that you are responsible for breaking.>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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I guess since you’re removing your replies means that you’re NOT going to show this thread to your therapist? Afraid of what they might say about it????>>> on Forum topic - Coping with anger at a sexless marriage despite treating ADHD as best as I can
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