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So I just am looking for some advice. I’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD. I think I’ve know my whole life I’ve had it, my teachers would comment and I remember as a kid what school was like. I was fortunate enough that I was good enough my distractions didn’t make me flail but it was always there. Fast forward and I meet my wife. I see now my hyper fixation when we started our relationship. I would be the best boyfriend. Driving to her work to leave flowers and chocolate when I knew she was having a bad day. Reading the room and going for a walk if I felt she needed it.

My husband has been diagnosed recently with adhd. For years he has struggled to regulate his moods, particularly anger and episodes of stress, frustration and anger have become more frequent over the last 5 years. It has taken a toll on our marriage. He has drank beer to help with his racing thoughts consistently 5-6 night out of 7 high strength lager 7-8 cans. When he doesn’t drink he goes to bed early as he is tired and dysregulated. He spends an inordinate amount of time on his phone. He uses it to ‘process’ play games calm his mind.

Content Warning: Mentions suicidal thoughts

My wife and I have been married for eleven years and have two kids. My wife's inattentive ADHD wasn't diagnosed until about a year ago. I love my wife and want to stay married for so many reasons, but I'm feeling trapped in an un-winnable dynamic where life just isn't functioning and it's been leading to depression, a desire for divorce, and even thoughts of suicide. There's no serious intent of divorce or suicide, but they linger there because everything else feels pretty hopeless.

I recently wrote about how my husband had recently sought out an adhd diagnosis. Our marriage has been under huge strain for nearly a year. I have tried so hard to communicate how I feel and I am met with aggression anger ignoring and blame. He often puts his fingers in his ears whilst we are trying to talk as he calls it. He turns things around on me and just name calls and says I am the problem mentally unstable. The most recent one is that I am choosing to be unhappy that I like being miserable and angry.

The new psychologist now echoes the first, saying I have complex PTSD after ADD marriage and subsequent divorce. I don’t know if that’s comforting (validating) or disempowering (can one ever move on from this?).

All I know is that in the last two weeks, I’ve passed an exam for continuing education, spent three days at a congress, applied to a new (terrifying) job and been to an interview for it, and written with a man on an online dating service every day. All the while feeling exhausted, helpless, dissociated and anhedonic like before.

it's been a while since I've posted but there's been 2 statements that are swirling around for me lately that I needed to put out there to this community as I'd love some support on them (even if it's in favour of my adhd-spouse and helps me see a new side)

Came to a head this week because shes been ill and I realized how bad she is.

Had to some stuff at home because we were getting contractors in. She was already feeling ill. So we started, then she "finds" other stuff that could wait so she starts on that. Hours and hours go by, she misses meals etc, really wears herself out.

I am 13 years married to my husband who has undiagnosed ADHD. We have 3 young children and I have always been happy to take on the traditional role of house wife and general home/life keeper so to speak. Some may find this strange but I stand by tradition roles. This year has been nothing short of hell. I have never really took the ADHD seriously but having tried countless different solutions to our marital problems I stumbled down the rabbit hole of how it affects marriage.

I went to the Dr. yesterday ( after 8 months ) for my medication check in. I've been currently off all medications ( for the past 3 months ) due to no availability living in a remote area.

Before giving any results, I wanted to mention that my current lifestyle choice was not aimed or motivated by improving my physical health, so I'm kind of shocked at the results which also makes me remember my past before I was diagnosed with anything. In other words, this was NOT by design or intention, it's just the end result of me doing what I'm doing.

I post on girlsaksguys and ask sexual questions and thinks I have a problem but I really have anxiety and mild intellectual disability that cause me to ask the same questions without realizing it. Some comments said “Now you've asked this question twice. I think you're mentally ill” another one said “Change the doctor who said you're not mentally ill they obviously suck at their job” They call me mentally unstable and someone said “I’m sorry but this is absolutely untreated mental illness that we are being subjected to every day. I’ve told her before and it still rings true.