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My ADHD husband and I have been married for 20 years. We have had our ups and downs but the last year has just been a down.  Neither wants to call it quits and I’ve signed us up for the marriage seminar.  However I can’t shake this feeling that my H hasn’t been faithful.  I have asked and he denies it.  Still my gut says he has and as I get older my gut instinct are pretty good.  I need my husband to understand that I need to know what we are recovering from. With this suspicion it really puts a damper on my willingness to work to make things better.

So my DH just came barreling into the room telling me we are going to Mexico. No discussion no asking if I'd like to go...A buddy of his is going and my DH would like to go too. I do not want to go anywhere with him at this point. This is a man who screams at me daily. Treats me as if I'm a huge imposition to him but I'm supposed to be thrilled to go on a holiday with him. I do not understand at all.

I’m trapped in the hell of my ADHD husband and 18 yr old ADHD son at war.  My husband and I have a relationship on the brink and this extra piece makes it all worse.  I thought my husband would be sympathetic to my son since they share such similar struggles however the opposite happens.  My husband cuts our son no slack for all the same things he does.  Our son is in college and comes home most weekends ( a fact that amazes me since home is not a relaxing place to be for him).  I feel completely helpless.

I've been married for almost 25 years. My husband has never been officially diagnosed. During my first years of marriage, I believed our communication problems were due  to the classic tale of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. I tried all the different approaches that this sort of literature suggested. None really seemed to work.  A few years ago, a good friend of mine and child education; suggested that my husband may have ADD. As I began researching and taking workshops (one of my daughters has it) I've come to the realization that my husband also suffers from this.

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Has anyone been able to rekindle a relationship after your ex-ADHD partner gets treatment?

Hi, all,

Someone posted this in another thread, and it rings so true for me that I decided to make it a new topic.  

My ex would acknowledge the ADHD when doing so suited him.  Specifically, he seemed to like the "I am a victim" aspects of having a diagnosis but not the "Now you need to do something about it" aspects.  

There is a TV show called "Princess" on the Lifetime channel.  It is SO interesting for me to see these "usually young" women who have been living carefree off the generosity and love of family and friends. They ALWAYS have an impish grin and seem to believe they are particularly cute and smart.  I see my old husband in them and want to kick myself for letting him drift along while I strived and worked so hard.  With him believing that he is smart to not have had to work too hard for his own home and family. He likes to say he does the work but doesn't actually do it.

I am not sure how to introduce myself on this board, so rather than a 'hi' post, I thought I would contribute here with brief on the progress my partner and I have been making in building our relationship. I am a thirty seven year old professional in Australia who is currently two and a half years into a long distance relationship with a lovely, forty year old American. We met on a fan board for a band that we both like and were firm friends from the first ridiculous joke.