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DH had ADHD. He is on meds and really trying to work on himself. He works from home which makes it difficult for him to focus sometimes (working from an office is not up for discussion). Sometimes when I need his attention he will say things like "I need 5 minutes to focus on this first." I try to respect that and give him his space to focus on what he was working on before I came in. However, when a half hour goes by and I am still waiting, I get frustrated. If I try to remind him that I am waiting or go back into his office he gets angry and feels pressured.

Our 16-year-old son is convinced that he is going to be emancipated at the end of the summer so he can move to another state to live with people he knows from the internet and a few video game tournaments.  He says these people are starting college in the other state.  He has very unrealistic ideas about how much it will take to support himself and seems to believe that these other peopel will help support him.  He has been warned that he will have to repeat math if he misses that classes three more times this year.  He has a zero in it right now.  He says that all of school is useless and

I'm the non-spouse. It's been 11 years, most of which seem to have been hell. Again last night we had our every few months argument about the same old stuff. I've gotten my doctor to put me on welbutrin and had him up the dose at least once. She has even started talking about "separating our stuff." I'm 52, I changed my whole life to be with her. She's on Vyvanse and just as irritable as before. I'm massively overweight and she has been losing weight and is slim again. I guess at this point all options are on the table. The dog gets more attention than I do.

I have read the ADHD & Marriage book many times and tried to work through it and read through posts, etc. on this forum many times and tried to make sense of it all. But sometimes I think I'm just fooling myself. Sometimes I think that there are people with ADHD who do the work and take the medication and are able to have good relationships, even if it is a struggle for them. And then there's me, and really all of us stuck on this forum. And what I mean is that, I'm not married to someone whose problem is ADHD. I am married to someone who has ADHD.

I did a search on ADHD and marriage and found this site.  Reading this I was brought to tears (Not too hard lately) I read about non-adhd spouses, they were pretty much saying exactly how I feel.  I can see exactly how he is in the explanation of how the ADHD spouse feels and thinks too.

I have been married 44 yrs to someone who has gotten progressively worse and worse.  He hasn’t gotten professionally diagnosed as of yet although he fits every single criteria to the “T”. 

I don’t normal post to boards but I feel that I have no where to turn to. So, about a year ago I kicked my husband out of our house due to his anger issues, even though we had just started couples counseling, at the time I was upset and didn’t know what I was doing and just acting on pure emotion and adrenaline, we are both in our early 50's.

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Chaz:  You got into the garbage AGAIN?

Poncho:  It's not my fault.  There wree cheese wrappers in there.

Chaz:  I'm so tired of having to scold you over and over!

Poncho:  IIt's no picinic for me to have to keep listening to it!

Chaz:  Well, I am just using a pre-recorded message!

Poncho:  Well, I'm just using ear plugs!

Recording:  Bad dog you are for making a mess all over the--

Do you and your spouse have trouble agreeing on what is best for the two of you?

First of all, Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there!

Next week, it will be 10 years since my then-husband was fired from what had been only his second long-term (defined as lasting more than 2 years) job of his life.  The job loss and resulting financial difficulties were very stressful, especially because he was fired from his other long-term job about 12 years earlier and then was unemployed, by choice, for about 6 years.