My husband finally decided six weeks ago our son might have ADD, something I had insisted on for years without support and thus no clinical help, for years. In researching guess what he discovered; he has ADD. Something I had suggested many times and been told I was crazy.
I thought I was making progress in getting my wife to look into the possibility that she may be affected by ADHD. She had asked for a list of experts to see for an evaluation. She had said her therapist had said that ADHD could be part of the problem.
Our 9-year-old daughter has not flown since she was a toddler.
My wife is taking her to Arizona soon. She might not have a problem with flying. One reason to be hopeful is that she loves scary roller coasters--coasters I certainly won't go on!
I was starting to feel a bit better because my wife has started to look into getting evaluated for ADHD. Then she called just now and I feel horrible.
Hello! I'm dating someone with SEVERE ADHD. We've been in an LDR for two years (planning on getting married next fall) and the hyperfocus stopped after we met for the first time. About half a year into the relationship. At this time I didn't realize his ADHD could even affect our relationship. I always thought of ADHD as kids being to hyper to even sit down (I knew he was diagnosed as a child as well as his sister, who is on disability due to her ADHD not even allowing her to drive) Because there were no signs until after hyperfocusing, it never popped up in my head.
My (deceased) mother-in-law and one of my wife's friends have taken me to task for being "rude" because I don't talk enough. Today's "Luann" explains why.
Hello everyone,
I hope I can gain some insight or advice from some of you. My husband is convinced I have ADHD, and I certainly do exhibit many of the symptoms.... I'm thirty years old, and I haven't been diagnosed, although I have a scheduled evaluation in about 2 1/2 weeks. In my childhood, I excelled at school, but was socially awkward, "spazzy," talked too much, got angry easily, and knew that I just never "fit in." I was okay and comfortable with that part. I still talk to much, interrupt, get anxious when not "doing" something, etc.
Our 9-year-old daughter was recently officilly diagnosed with ADHD.
Our 15-year-old son has long had problems at home and school that fit ADHD:
-failure to turn in assignments
-playing video games or watching when he should be doing homework--he does this while we are in the same room! We walk by, catch him, and he denies it. Then we catch him again. And again.
-frequently interrupting speakers, including my wife and me
-impulsivity and poor decisions
I just need to vent. So, I apologize for bad grammar, spelling, and whatever else.
Looking back, I think that our sex life started deteriorating once my wife stop using oral contraceptives and we switched to only using condoms. No, not because I don't like condoms.
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