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Here we go again with H not going to work so he can find another job!

Thu Dec 22nd, 2016 - 3:36pm by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

H hasn't been to work all week. He's been too into his video game to leave the house. I sent a message to H about whether he was at work and he sent me a frowny face. Day 3 of not working. Then he tells me "I've been looking for a temp job." Okay here we go again. I say "What kind?" He goes "Leaving options open. There's a couple of restaurants looking for cooks and asst cooks. Might be time to learn something new." Great! You'll go and work at a restaurant with crappy hours probably making minimum wage.

Incessant why

Thu Dec 22nd, 2016 - 2:42pm by Almost Done

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Communication with ADHD

Does anyone else have a spouse who is constantly asking why? Most of the time it is in reference to something I don't want to do or that makes me uncomfortable, and not anything that directly relates to him. The answer of, because I don't want to or it makes me uncomfortable is never enough. It has to be explained in detail and gets worried like a dog with a bone. If I try to help him understand why, well then all of the reasons are argued against like my being comfortable or not with something is up for negotiation.

Gaslighting to justify behavior

Thu Dec 22nd, 2016 - 12:39pm by redhead1017

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I recently told my husband that unless he was willing to talk more honestly with me about issues that our marriage has been dealing with for the last two decades, that I did not see any hope in us continuing to move forward. I thought about divorce every day for the last 20 years and because of his ongoing mental issues it is a very real reality that I will most likely be forced to deal with in the next couple of years. My husband is a very good man, but is extremely childish and immature just like many of the other husbands that deal with ADHD. He is basically an eternal child.

The myth of the "hidden disability"

Thu Dec 22nd, 2016 - 12:16am by tfarmer

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I have been reading a bit lately about ADHD and this idea of how it is hidden compared to a person with some more obvious disability. I find the comparison to a blind person to be particularly amusing and misplaced because ...

After running into a couple walls a blind person would no longer deny the problem.

In my experience that is simply untrue of an ADHD person. Instead, the ADHD person rationalizes their predicament by claiming they are not running into the same walls so that is somehow different.

Is this ADHD or just quick to anger issue?

Wed Dec 21st, 2016 - 12:22pm by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

Sunday afternoon H was making soup. He was in a great mood. He had cooked down a pork roast in a pan and then put it in the pot with some stock. He then went and took a shower because we were expecting guests. Well I see dirty dishes in the sink and put them in the dishwasher. I see the pan he used to cook the roast sitting on the stove so I wash that too. Big mistake! He comes out of the shower and sees that I washed the pan and gets mad saying "WHY did you wash the pan? I use that to cook the vegetables because it gives them a good flavor. You did this last time too!

Welbutrin

Wed Dec 21st, 2016 - 8:13am by vabeachgal

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

Does anyone have experience with this medication?

My husband's primary care physician diagnosed depression and "borderline ADHD" and gave him the lowest dose of Welbutrin.  His pyschologist held onto the ADHD diagnosis (he attended 6 sessions)

He did not attend his final appointment with the psychiatrist for final testing and diagnosis.  When I look back on the past, I see something besides ADHD.  However, I'm not going to make an armchair diagnosis.  I'll just say that I think there is a reason that Welbutrin worked so well for him - increased focus and leveled moods.  

Adult ADHD affecting their own child's development

Tue Dec 20th, 2016 - 11:50pm by Our Family Score

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

With or without treatment, at what point do the behaviors modeled by a parent, with ADHD, negatively impact the development of their own kids? What is best for the child? Divorce with co-parenting or staying together and risk the exposure of learned helplessness?

The "All One" Miricle Space.........6th Demension of God

Tue Dec 20th, 2016 - 11:01am by kellyj

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Joy in Marriages with ADHD

My search for an explanation of what happened to me on that fateful day when I took the accidental "Big Dose" of LSD is over....and finally figured it out.  When I first came here and started writing....I had no idea what I was doing but as anyone who has read anything I have written....you may have recalled when I was jumping all over the place and not really following along very well....that I said  "I had a feeling"  and I was just following it but I really couldn't explain what that was?

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