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Hello all. Well, I have spent a lot of time on this forum, read the book, and frankly, it has gotten me no where! lol! (Not the forum's fault by any means). After my souses' adhd diagnosis, and drug variety, we were left devastated. I think he believes that the adhd (and all that comes with it) is why we are "too different". The more research, the more drugs, the more people he met with adhd, the worse our relationship got. I was never "doing the right thing" or I was "always out to hurt him". There were serious rage/ anger issues that were unpredictable, frightening, and abusive.

I did not know he had this for the first year we were together, I just knew he had organization, memory and other issues.  I accepted and blew it off.  I'm a type A Personality so it was not noticed as much.

However, things started falling apart in our lives.  Illnesses, death of family members, job losses, and his condition really came to the forefront because I needed him to help more.

Good Evening.  I am hoping that someone will be able to relate to my story and offer me some major advice.

Those are his words, but I believe they're accurate.  He told me this weekend that he knows this is true because he prefers sitting with his mom, who has late-stage Alzheimer's disease and can't process communication, than being with his dad (and, presumably, with me). In a way, this doesn't matter anymore (we're now divorced), but it still hurts.  I wonder if he ever told any of the several therapists he visited over the years that part of the problem was his inability to form connections and it wasn't only my fault that our relationship was rocky and his life wasn't going well.

I have an ADHD partner who seethes with anger  when reminded about any mess. It doesn't matter if it is said nicely. She blows her top and accuses me of a lot of things that in the end everything is my fault. Sometimes she makes me feel like a monster by saying "ok, me and my son will just find a place tostay where we can leave without anyone dictating to us". I used to tell her that there is no need to be defensive because what we are trying to do, is normal. Keeping the house clean is a normal activity, it is not oppressive.

I'm new to this forum ...I hope I'm posting in the right place.

I read Melissa Orlov's book 3 times and found it very validating for both my wife (God bless her heart) and myself. I was diagnosed with ADHD/ADD after 12 hour PsychEval. this year and after 15 years of marriage, this book may be a catalyst in reconciliation between us. I would love to start a chat with other ADHD folks about this book and how it helped or if there were any disagreements and why.

My ex-husband has actually made arrangements for substitute care for his parents so that he can pick up our younger daughter at the airport this weekend at the beginning of her extremely short visit to our home state. I had broached with him that he pick her up but I did not at all expect that he would.  I told him that I'm ridiculously happy that he's going to see her. He's ridiculously happy to get a break from his parents.  

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