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"Hot and Bothered".......What Bothers You?

This is just a quick post and more of an observation.  You can treat the question of what bothers you as a rhetorical one which is mainly why I put that out there but....if you want to say what bothers you....this would be a good place to state it.  Into the context that I'm thinking about this....I noticed (now with a new set of eyes ) that my wife and I are different even though ADHD is the common thread.  Many things bother her in a general way and when she bothered...she has anxiety.  And because she has so many things that bother her...she has a lot more anxiety than I do.  And along w

"Normalizing" Partner's Behavior: Good or Not Good?

As I see my children deal with certain struggles as young adults, I question whether it was a good idea for me and my husband to attempt to minimize the effects of (and thus "normalize") things such as his extended unemployment.  I didn't think arguing was a good idea, but maybe that would have been better than allowing the issues to be buried (for the most part) but not resolved.  My daughters have issues with insecurity, perfectionism, and trusting men, and it seems to me that some of their issues might derive from, for lack of a better term, lack of a strong father figure.

Love's Sweet Song (a poem I wrote about our relationship)

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I have been a musician all my life, and have written many songs, lyrics and music to different things. I do love writing music. lyrics are harder. But, I wrote this poem about our relationship.

 

 

 

LOVE’S SWEET SONG                                                             

 

A melody sweet I sang anew,

how deeply in love, I was, with you.

Love first returned, then rarely came,

you never said why, you played this game.

 

You wrote me into your melody sweet

Am I Being Unreasonable?

Ever since we had the argument a week ago, I've been stewing over what I see as a major difference in opinion between H and I. I'll try to be brief. It's fair to say that H is obsessed with his phone. He uses it constantly. The first thing he does in the morning is check social media, before he makes coffee or eats breakfast, and he looks at it all through breakfast even though one or more of us are usually at the table with him.

ADHD therapists or lack thereof

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As the non- ADHD partner I have finally set boundaries that I will not continue this three year relationship unless he finally seeks out a therapist. We are not even married  but I feel like some that have have been married 25 years already. The problem is- in central Missouri there seems to be lack of resources. We can find only one or two that specialize in ADHD and they are extremely expensive. I myself have started therapy via Talkspace but fear he will only lie and get bored with them as well if I'm not involved anyone have any luck in the Columbia, Missouri area?. 

H came home happy last night, then a minute later was fuming!

So tired of being on edge EVERY SINGLE NIGHT when he gets home from work! He has been pretty good lately and I thought last night would be the same. He walks through the door, calls me hunny bunny, gives me a kiss. I tell him that he must have made good time getting home since he's usually home about 15 minutes later. He tells me he left work an hour early to drop off a customer at their house because his bike wasn't ready and that's why he's home early. He didn't seem upset that he had to do that and was in a good mood.

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