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Does anyone have experience with this medication?

My husband's primary care physician diagnosed depression and "borderline ADHD" and gave him the lowest dose of Welbutrin.  His pyschologist held onto the ADHD diagnosis (he attended 6 sessions)

He did not attend his final appointment with the psychiatrist for final testing and diagnosis.  When I look back on the past, I see something besides ADHD.  However, I'm not going to make an armchair diagnosis.  I'll just say that I think there is a reason that Welbutrin worked so well for him - increased focus and leveled moods.  

With or without treatment, at what point do the behaviors modeled by a parent, with ADHD, negatively impact the development of their own kids? What is best for the child? Divorce with co-parenting or staying together and risk the exposure of learned helplessness?

My search for an explanation of what happened to me on that fateful day when I took the accidental "Big Dose" of LSD is over....and finally figured it out.  When I first came here and started writing....I had no idea what I was doing but as anyone who has read anything I have written....you may have recalled when I was jumping all over the place and not really following along very well....that I said  "I had a feeling"  and I was just following it but I really couldn't explain what that was?

the anger, frustration, resentment, exhaustion, anxiety is growing in me

i have to tell my husband how i feel and how the adhd affects me and the marriage

but he is short tempered, overly emotional, and always flip it to make it about me

also, it's so sad and i dont want to hurt him but i just cant take it anymore

i cant see myself being married like this forever

i love him, i love him deeply... but that isnt enough

my needs in this marriage are not being met

i am growing more and more anxious and angry by the day

Hi everyone,

my boyfriend and I’ve been dating since March and we were uber happy and in love during the first 3 months. I felt like the center of his universe and, even though it was a long distance relationship pretty much  from the beginning, we managed to get to know each other quite well thanks to Skype, Messenger and all kinds of other tools.

I am trying so hard to set boundaries and it's not working and he is just being resentful. About 3 years ago I quit doing everything for him. He was offered a promotion but had to move across the country for it. And that's pretty much all he told me. I knew from past experiences that the next steps were for me to ask him questions about the details, make a plan, assign tasks, stay on him to complete the tasks, then scramble to fix whatever crisis arose because he didn't do what he was supposed to do. So I refused. I told him to come up with what he was going to do and I would let him know.

Just had yet another birthday for which my ADHD husband did not prepare. The last minute card and chocolates from the local drug store are hurtful. Didn't even remember to wish me a happy birthday. How am I not supposed to translate this as not caring? Try not to build up my hopes at times of birthdays, anniversaries, valentines etc. And remember that planning is difficult for him but ADHd is an explanation not an excuse. When we discuss things he says he cares but how am I supposed to believe this?

I have been working on me.   Something many of us have in common on this site is that WE ARE FRUSTRATED!  I have been doing some work on my attitude and trying to get my self back.  It has to do with powerlessness. I found this on a site and it says what I am focusing on right now and it is helping me.  I am ashamed I did not realize this earlier in my life.  I have cried too much and sat in pain too much in my life. Here is an excerpt:

 The Victim Role

A general observation that I've seen floated before: that men tend to want to make up for hurting someone by doing something, whereas women generally want to fix it by talking or listening instead. I've posted here before about having conflicts with my wife and being at a loss for words — how to show the right kind of empathy, for example? So I wind up doing something instead... more often than not now, it's something small and stupid. "Busy-work", she calls it when she's upset.

I just found this site... I am lost for words.  THis is my life in almost every post.  I have isolated myself from friends just trying to manage my life with my ADHD husband.  We will be married 9 years in Feburary and have 3 kids.  He works, comes home and watches tv, plays video games and then when he is tired he goes to sleep.  Literally does not help me with not one thing.  He is like 2 kids in 1 adult body.  I have to prepare his lunches, clothes, pay all the bills, make his dr appointments and remind remind remind.