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Hi everyone.  So...here I am:  trying to sit, stop prolonging... and write this post (again).  Last night.  When I found this site..I thought:  Wow!  The story of my life and found momentary comfort-being understood.  It soon was followed with fear and anxiety; and a world of questions or moreso:  guidence at this point.  Oh yeah...sorry..so I wrote and replied to a post that hit me expecially hard.  And somehow, right when I got done with a surprisingly long response, I deleted or lost it all.  Sigh...REALLY!?

I couldn't take it any longer, and my 11 & 12 year old sons begged me to give in and let dad have a divorce, so I agreed to a divorce.  H hasn't moved out yet, so the fighting has escalated exponentially, and things are really bad.  He's medicating now, and in therapy for the first time.  He says the medication is a miracle, and likes the counseling but cut me out of it right away, hence another reason for my agreeing to the divorce, I told him if he cut me out it was over.  But now he's taken to saying that the reason he's been threatening me with a divorce for 23 years is because I've

I have noticed that a few of the new posters have mentioned that their relationships (even long relationships that seemed to be fine) started to get frustrating around the time a child or children were born.  This has been my experience exactly and I am currently grieving for the nuclear family we will never be.  The unpredictability, extra work, organization,etc. that come with having children has pushed my husband's coping skills to the brink which has in turn pushed our marriage to the brink.

My next door neighbor has an ADHD son, and from watching how his parents "parent" him, they don't seem to know anything about ADHD. The poor little guy (he's 7 now) gets belted all the time, gets punished every single day, gets yelled at every day, and his younger sister is obviously the "favorite" of the two of them. It's very sad to watch, and I feel SO BAD for this kid. Are there any good books for parenting children with ADHD that I could give them?

My husband and I have been together almost 19 years and just lastnight absolutely fed up I googled "Why wont my husband help me with chores?" I found this forum and everything I read feels like I'm the one that wrote it. I am in tears to know that my ADHD husband is not lazy and a liar and really does forget. I knew he had ADHD and he is on mess but we just had our first child 21 months ago and I guess that is when I stopped being ok with doing everything. Its too hard now and its getting worse. I have contemplated divorce many times these last few years and feel like a nagging fool.

I am new to this site and have been so bashed by my husband's pastor and brother to believe that I am crazy.  We were married a year ago but my ex never moved in. Every time he did he would have an explosion and take whatever he had at my house and leave usually calling police and telling them all sorts of things like I'm dangerous, I had a gun and I was drunk. Fortunately, the police saw that he was the one that was out of control. But his brother told me to stop all the drama and blamed me for his outpatient hospital treatment last year.

I was going to post this as two separate questions, but they really do overlap, so I apologize for the post length.

I stumbled upon this forum last night when I was searching out the terms "leaves garbage on the counter". I hit a new low these past two days because I'm pregnant with my second child and am a stay-at-home parent to a 2 year old and we were down with a horrible stomach virus. My house is in shambles from the past three days of illness. This is a huge road block to me because my brain becomes foggy when my house is a mess and I can't get any administrative work (taxes) done for our business when I can't concentrate.