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Hi.  I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to something that frustrates me very much.  My husband, who has been diagnosed at various points with depression, anxiety, and ADHD, has seen many therapists over the years and has taken medications on and off.  Some of those forays into treatment have been at my encouragement or insistence.  I have occasionally received indirect feedback from the therapists, most notably the person who said I should butt out and the person who said I should come in for sessions with my spouse.

I have had a terrible cold for the last week. I come home from work and collapse, sleep until 10, and go to bed. Its all I can do to go to work. I go to work because I am going to have a hysterectomy in 2 or 3 weeks, scheduled next week and want to have all the sick leave for that. My house is destroyed! If I can't count on him to help out when I am sick, what is going to happen when I'm down for 6 weeks? This all comes two weeks after having the talk about really needing him to step up for me and he wholeheartedly agreed. For me, this is really one of the last nails in the coffin.

I've read about a tendency of people with add to be shut down in the area of sexual intimacy... because of distraction, I guess?

Or maybe it depends more on what other conditions are comorbid with the add?

So, I SWEAR my husband has ADHD pretty bad and he not only gets mad at me if i suggest it but he tells me all psychologists are crazy and ADHD is made up. He is 30 years old and should know better than that.

I am beginning to wonder if my husbands incessant threats and reminders that he's leaving as soon as our bankruptcy is over aren't more manipulation. It is very sad to say but I really do think everything he does and says is an attempt to manipulate me. To make himself feel better. 

He still says he's leaving..said it very convincingly this past weekend. I basically threw in the towel, took off my rings, and shut down. He acted as if nothing were wrong but I couldn't. I called him out on some deal breaking behaviors and put a boundary and that's when he said he was leaving. 

Hi Everyone,

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and married for almost 4 years. We are both 43 years old and have a large blended family. He and I were both previously married to other spouses once before, and we both have children from those marriages. It's a "yours, mine, and ours" situation... I had 4 children from my first marriage, he had 3 children from his first marriage, and together we have 1 child. So we now have a total of 8 children.