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Seeking advice on medication and more concrete solutions to address symptoms. In 2006 I was diagnosed with depression, in 2013 I was diagnosed with ADHD:Inattentive. Figuring out the complex blend of symptoms between depression and ADD has been frustrating, and I don't conveniently fit into either box. I need to get more pro-active in developing a comprehensive treatment plan. Currently the only thing I'm taking is fish oil, multivitamins, and a vitamin D supplement. Exercise seems to help my mood significantly, but I've fallen out of the habit in recent months.

Background:  we're both 55, no kids, known each other since high school (platonic back then); been together 4+ years, ages 50-55.  He asked me to marry him in 2010, though he still flirted seriously with other women. (Disrepsectful to me.  This kept up, but at a decreasing rate, for two years.  He finally quit that in 2012, when I enforced my boundaries in a LOT of areas.) 

Years ago I was diagnosed with depression. In the past two years I've been diagnosed with ADHD. I believe I am the ADHD-inattentive type. I had been on Wellbutrin XL for years that seemed to have a benefit but it wasn't enough. I tried Vyvance, Adderall, and Ritalin. They all may as well have been sugar pill.

On Saturday I googled ADHD and found this site. I am female. I bought the kindle version of The ADHD effect on marriage. My husband is reading it too me. The book has brought such relief to both of us so much relief! I finally feel heard! We have been married just over three years. Our life is very complicated. I have triple x syndrome and require carers. My husband told social services he would do my care. From the book I now see he did have every intention to do my care but his undiagnosed ADHD has prevented him.(he is waiting to see a psychiatrist for ADHD and depression).

I need advice. My boyfriend gets very aggressive and angry when he feels that another driver has "wronged" him, and it scares me. Every time it happens, we argue because he doesn't get that he's putting people at risk. 

My husband called last night and left a message on the answering machine.  He called to wish me a happy birthday but most of the message was taken up by nearly incoherent mumbling about how he's unhappy.  I'm sorry my husband is unhappy and I'd like to tell him that but I want to avoid saying anything that would imply that I or anyone else will be rescuing him.  Helplessness is a long-running tune in my husband's playlist.  My past attempts to be provide help have been brushed or shoved off, as perhaps they should have been.

Recently my spouse was preaching to me about the great strides he has made in reducing his spending.

I am the bookkeeper, with full access to both business and personal accounts.

Don't you want to see the big picture? I think most of my life has been lived with tunnel vision, and poor site to go along with that. I think the largest negative contributors to my inability to see the big picture is my love for myself, my emotions and my lack of knowledge. Have you ever saw a little league coach who  knows very little about the game, and maybe he didn't prepare his team vs. an experienced coach who's team has been practiced? The experienced coach many times is calm, he see's the big picture.