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If I get micromanaged ONE MORE TIME...

Mon Sep 8th, 2014 - 8:09am by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I am so so so fed up with this! I don't think H feels good about himself until he can find fault with something I am doing! I NEVER used to second guess things I did until I met him. Now every time he shows up in the kitchen while I'm trying to get something ready I basically freeze and wait for him to leave because no matter what I do he will tell me it needs to be done differently. I don't think he could find anything wrong with what I was doing a few weeks ago but then he just had to turn the burner down EVER so slightly to feel good about himself.

Six weeks with husband gone. What I'm learning.

Sat Sep 6th, 2014 - 7:29pm by WornOutMB

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

My husband has been gone for six weeks.  In some ways it has been good.  In some ways not so good.  He has rented a room about 25 minutes away. I met with him today to discuss finances but it turned ugly.  He will not face anything he is doing. Honestly, I don't recognize him.  He has a swagger and an attitude about him that did not exist before.  It is a little creepy to me. He took our son's college money and spent almost all of it. In six weeks.

Think husband has ADHD

Fri Sep 5th, 2014 - 9:00pm by culzeancully43

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Diagnosis and Treatment of ADHD

I have been with my husband for thirteen years and married for five. Reading posts , I think that he has ADHD. He has every symptom mentioned and is getting increasingly difficult to cope with. Due to his angry outbursts, bad behaviour and lack of apologies , I am in constant danger of being isolated from family and friends. He is like Jekyll and Hyde. One minute kind, loving and fun to be with the next angry about everything in his life and blaming everyone else for making him angry. I bear the brunt of it and have gone from being a bright, bubbly , happy person to being a nervous wreck.

Do doctors ask for spouses input?

Fri Sep 5th, 2014 - 10:06am by dedelight4

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Diagnosis and Treatment of ADHD

To any persons out there who have/or are in therapy of ANY kind, including medical doctors:   Do the doctors or therapists ask for YOUR (the non-ADHD) person's input and/or opinions? And what is their responses? Do they take you seriously? My ADHD husband and I have been in couples therapy a few times, (even one ADHD specialist) but they never EXPLAINED the ins and outs of ADHD. I'd like to hear anyone else's experiences in this. Were there any POSITIVE things coming out of your appointments?

Why is it so hard?

Fri Sep 5th, 2014 - 9:11am by frustratedinfla

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Communication with ADHD
We can't talk anymore, on meds, no meds, morning, noon or night! Why us it so hard to talk to them? Last night I asked him a question and then again the blank state! I said are you thinking or ignoring me? He said a little of both! I said why are you ignoring me? He said I'm not, I'm thinking. And he heard me give another option besides thinking and ignoring! Then this morning,I have to tell you guys my morning, DH was stirring when I got up to get the kids up and ready for school. And of course the new puppy is hungry so I fed her in the crate and he let her run when she was done.

Breaking the Parent Child relationship

Fri Sep 5th, 2014 - 3:51am by broken99

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Progress You are Making and Hope

I have been the 'child' in this relationship for 40 years!

I'm not going into details but we both seemed happy.

Now I want to build Independence and Autonomy.

My therapist says 'take charge of more things.'

I have made a list of things I can do.

What else should I be thinking about, directing my efforts toward?
 

Husband tells me "I" need to find us some friends!

Thu Sep 4th, 2014 - 12:09pm by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I don't think H really has any true friends. He's got buddies he races with but they never call him up wanting to do anything. I don't really have any friends since I moved out here 5 years ago because 1) I'm shy and 2) H goes into a snarky mode anytime I make plans to do anything with anyone so I never call anyone up and I almost always turn anyone down when they do ask me to go out with them. I think he is tired of seeing pictures on Facebook of all these people having fun in big groups and here we are at home doing the same old thing-nothing.

H blows his top over something "wrong" I did and then does the same thing!

Thu Sep 4th, 2014 - 8:58am by Anonymous

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

The smallest things turn into a HUGE deal! Just last week I took one of his precious sharp knives out of the butcher block to open a package. He sits there and watches me and goes "I REALLY wish you wouldn't use those knives to open packages. It just dulls them". Guess what? The VERY next day he gets a package and opens it with the SAME knife I had used! Back up to about a month ago when we had a bunch of rice leftover along with teriyaki. I froze the teriyaki and asked if I should freeze the rice too. Oh my god he looked at me like I was crazy! "Why would you even think of freezing rice?

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