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1,  act in an excessively subservient manner.
"she didn't have to kowtow to a boss"

synonyms: grovel to, be obsequious to, be servile to, be sycophantic to, fawn over/on, cringe to, bow and scrape to, toady to, truckle to, abase oneself before, humble oneself to; More
curry favor with, dance attendance on, ingratiate oneself with, suck up to, kiss up to, brown-nose, lick someone's boots
"she didn't have to kowtow to a boss"

2,  historical
kneel and touch the ground with the forehead in worship or submission as part of Chinese custom.

I have been on this site many times over the years and felt both hope and despair based upon what I've read. Now after 15 1/2 years of being in a relationship and 10 years of marriage, I truly am ready to throw in the towel. My wife was diagnosed in 2001, based upon an ultimatum that I made. Being in the mental health industry, I knew that she had ADD and her symptoms were so bat that I wasn't willing to spend one more day with her if she didn't go get evaluated. Sure enough, she was diagnosed ADD and has been on several meds since then - but that's about it.

So I'm somewhat new to this but I rather get a head start and work toward change now and be able to enjoy my relationship before its completely ruined. I feel that most of what I'm dealing with is similar to what everyone else is dealing with. Heres some of the things that I'm trying to work with:

He lies and lies and lies some more. I can usually tell when hes lying but he says he lies because the truth would make me mad. 

He's very short tempered and gets very angry or sad within a short notice

I believe my ADD is escalating rapidly as I get older.  Is this common?

I have had a mild form of ADD since early childhood.  I always day-dreamed a lot in class.  I had trouble following along with what was going on and what was being asked of me. I often was confused by directions or misunderstood the meaning of what was being said.  I was never a very good student.  I couldn't listen *and* take notes.  I was bad at planning long term projects.  The list goes on.

I've read so many posts on this forum about behaviors that hasn't got one thing to do with ADHD...In my dealings and study of the effects of ADD/ADHD (a busy or fast mind)  it makes it hard for children and adults with it, to think all the way through a specific thought. Many seem to experience an urgency or fact void that cause's a quick action.  Or in some, the opposite, a withdrawal, or zoning out... In most cases it isn't chronic, but can have that appearance in some. But, it seems to come and go, making it as unexpected to them at times as it does to the bystanders..

Hi All,

Seeking advice on medication and more concrete solutions to address symptoms. In 2006 I was diagnosed with depression, in 2013 I was diagnosed with ADHD:Inattentive. Figuring out the complex blend of symptoms between depression and ADD has been frustrating, and I don't conveniently fit into either box. I need to get more pro-active in developing a comprehensive treatment plan. Currently the only thing I'm taking is fish oil, multivitamins, and a vitamin D supplement. Exercise seems to help my mood significantly, but I've fallen out of the habit in recent months.

Background:  we're both 55, no kids, known each other since high school (platonic back then); been together 4+ years, ages 50-55.  He asked me to marry him in 2010, though he still flirted seriously with other women. (Disrepsectful to me.  This kept up, but at a decreasing rate, for two years.  He finally quit that in 2012, when I enforced my boundaries in a LOT of areas.) 

Years ago I was diagnosed with depression. In the past two years I've been diagnosed with ADHD. I believe I am the ADHD-inattentive type. I had been on Wellbutrin XL for years that seemed to have a benefit but it wasn't enough. I tried Vyvance, Adderall, and Ritalin. They all may as well have been sugar pill.