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I had posted in another thread a few weeks ago that my DH had had a couple job interviews. He got a dream of a job - perfect hours, very nice commute, and really great pay. He has been out of work for more than two years so this was welcome. 

Yesterday he came home early. He had been fired for doing something - he wasn't clear on the details, but he's been fired several times for similar issues (lack of planning and following through, focusing on one small thing and letting really big things fester). 

My partner was lucky enough to be diagnosed with adhd as a child and given concerta to help with symptoms. However over the last few weeks have noticed little things but more often and worse. Over our short time together I knew very little about the condition and still do. I struggle to talk to him about it. He seems unsettled and restless. He assures me he is fine and his tablets are working but refuses to accept there may be problems that we need to face as a couple. A few examples of recent behaviours is snapping in conversation.

Does anyone else ever get treated as though they are their ADD spouse's mother?  Like friends and family commenting that "you should really make [hubby] eat better," "you should really tell [hubby] to lighten up," "it's really not good for [hubby] to leave his car such a mess, haven't you told him to clean his trash?"  You get the idea; being held accountable for the actions of another adult, as though he is a child you should just be able to make "behave," as though you are not already aware of and distressed by all of these noted deficiencies.  As though you have not TRIED, futilely, to i

Discoveries about my ADHD as they apply to me.  This is my new self talk, not my conscience feelings or how I respond to others directly.  It is most decidedly one sided, judgmental and highly opinionated.  It has to be for me to counter the old self talk which focused only on what was wrong with me and believing my problems with others were 100% me, not anyone else.  It also addresses some real life issues that I have encountered with some real life people in my life.  I also find it interesting how from this old self talk, the words coming out of my mouth were closer to ,"this is all abou

Hello! I have never in my life posted to an open forum like this, but I am desperate for advice so I'm really hoping this helps! 

My first time ever reaching out for help. To make a long story short I've been married four years to my husband who has ADHD. He is taking a generic form of Adderall. So it wasn't until after we were married that he started getting so out if control angry. This anger turned into abuse, physical and emotional. I don't want to go into detail about me because this isn't about me, suffice it to say I've had my share of bruises and cuts. I've tried learning more what sets him off but now it seems most anything will. Yesterday we were driving and a dog ran right out in front of us.

Dh is going around slamming things.  I used to actually believe that I did or said or was something wrong.  Now, I am not taking it personally anymore.  If he has a problem with me, he will have to talk to me and face to face tell me what is the matter. I will stop guessing that I am to blame.  Since it has been his habit to not talk about anything except jokes and silliness, I used to try to guess what he hated about me that he was acting so rudely.  Tonight, I am going to assume something different.  I am going to assume that he is just plain frustrated.

I posted earlier on here about my husband not being interested in parenting tasks.  I've been to a therapist for myself and recently went to one for my 3 year old son.  Both therapists told me that my husband and I need marital counselling at the very least for things to improve, and that he desperately needs individual counselling (of big concern to them both is his impatience, such as not letting the 3 year old use the potty and not sitting through family meals).  My husband has refused to go to marriage counselling when I had brought it up a few times over the past months.  My 3 year old

I wanted to say, "Thank you!" to Mrs. Orlov and Dr. Hallowell for creating, moderating, and curating this informative forum. I recently started dating a guy and he admitted to having ADHD. I came from a well-educated family and upbringing and so I know what ADHD is and what it isn't. With that regard, his ADHD hasn't scared me away. Because I am aware of the symptoms and expressed behavior of ADHD, I started "suggesting" guidelines for how we should communicate and made a detailed outline of our forthcoming date in West Hollywood.