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What I saw:

Him walking over to the table and throwing a stack of paper onto the table with an angry expression on his face.

Him sitting back in his chair and angrily throwing a pencil and some papers on the table.

Saying disrespectful, unkind things to me, like "You can leave. Go away!" in front of the kids.

Calling a timeout but not circling back to the conversation, nor starting the talk again.

Being sarcastic towards me when we were leaving to get on a plane. "Send me your complaints!" was the last thing he called after me as I walked away.

I know, this is an endless topic... my husband who has mild ADHD really believes everything he says, even when it's completely false.

My husband started taking Ritalin about 1 year ago.  In the beginning I noticed some changes in attention and he said it was really helping focus at work.  Only problem our marriage seemed to deteriorate.  He is not the same person. I can't explain when it began.  He started traveling more, becoming more distant. He was offered a job in FL we live in CA and was in the process of offer and acceptance.  It was a HUGE decision we have 2 boys 3 and 5 the 5 year old was diagnosed with Autism when he was 2.

While reviewing the list of our debt, my ADHD spouse decided to hone in on his opinion of the reason we are in debt is the balance we still owe for my new dental partial.  He then proceeded digging into the past to REMIND me that my bad teeth were caused by my eating disorder - which I have been free from for OVER 20 years.

I have been irritated for years over the fact that DH does no housework at all.  Absolutely NONE.  I had chalked it up to the fact that he is in Academia and has lots of work to do outside of just teaching.  Also, since the kids, I haven't had a 'real' job and have made a paltry amount of money each of the last 6 years.  But I'm getting angrier and angrier as my schedule fills up with jobs and I am STILL doing everything.

I'm fairly certain that my husband has ADD, although he insists that he does not.  Apparently during his first marriage, his first wife made him go get tested, and he was told that while he was close to the diagnosis, he didn't have it.  He thinks it's a made-up disease used by people who want to control others.

In spite of this, and in spite of our different temperaments, we have managed to learn to accommodate each other in most areas.  The one area where we cannot find common ground, however, is exercise.

I have never posted in a Forum before. I am the ADHD spouse (diagnosed for 17 years/medicated for 4 months). The lifestyle that I had when I was first diagnosed was such that medication didn't seem crucial (the MD who diagnosed said it was mild and I might be fine with out medication). Fast forward 17 years and I am now married to a non-ADHD (maybe) man who I adore. When we met and fell in love I was in a terrible place in my life.

My relationship I have invested over 2 years into is about to fail.  I have been living my ADHD boyfriend for the past 1.5 years and it was always a bit tumultuous, however, he is wonderful in many ways with a great sense of humor.  He showed me he really wanted to make it work with me in the beginning and was very loving and touchy (in a good way)...as I have been reading, I am victim of the hyper-focus courtship, lol....great.  I now feel that he doesn't care to give me the things I need to feel secure and loved in the relationship.  He has admitted to me he was on meds in his 16 year mar

Halfway through his first year of Kindergarden, my son was diagnosed with high-functioning autism.  Some of his symptoms are very similar to ADHD, but we haven't checked him out for it yet...  It'd honestly be difficult to distinguish them from the autism.  He's now 14 years old, in 8th grade, and he gets along pretty well most days.