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Hi

I am an ADHD spouse and am working through the ADHD book.

Need to vent and bring up a topic, and wonder if anyone else might be dealing with a similar issue.

My ADHD spouse has been deeply involved in a war-based role playing game on the Iphone and Ipad for the past six months.
He has had game addiction issues in the past, at a desktop computer, and stopped cold turkey a few years ago.

Does anyone else struggle with this?  It's rarely talked about but I feel like it probably happens to other non-ers.  I suppose it's not a priority on the list of concerns as there are even worse things that need to be addressed and so doesn't get talked about often.  But does coping with your partner's ADHD ever end up making it appear like you're crazy, unreasonable, moody, neurotic,  etc.  to the public at large including friends and family?  Those suffering with ADHD often have had a lifetime to develop coping mechanisms to help them mask their disorder at work, around family and friend

I was trying to explain this to a friend.  My husband has decided he wants to leave, and since i've been pretty miserable with him lately, I didn't oppose to the idea.  But still I still have thoughts about getting back together with him, still trying to mend things, still trying to work it out.  My friend thinks I'm nuts.  Ok, nuts isn't the right word, but he couldn't understand why I would want to go back when I've been so miserable.

The link below should be required reading for EVERYONE.  They should teach these things in school.  Love is not hyperfocus that fades.  Love is caring and nurturing and maintaining and being able to commit and embody trust.  The best equation for a good and happy marriage is to marry the right person.  How can you tell who is the right person for you?  I am embarrassed that I did not know these things when I was younger.  My young heart saw too many romance movies.   I guess I mistook all these things for love.

I am new here and stumbled across this site while searching for answers or help for my failing marriage, it seems that my story is quite similar to some here so I figured reaching out is worth a shot, I have nothing to lose! I am sorry in advance if this is long but being new here, I have a story to tell.

Well, that was another crappy night of covering up your feet with the blanket so they don't get cold, then having you roll over taking all the comfort with you and leaving me totally exposed. 

What a petty thing for me to say. Sounds bad coming out of my fingers. That's why I'm saying it here, where someone might get what I mean. 

Well, our relationship just reached a new low this evening although I'm sure it won't be the last. 

Every year, right after the holidays, my husband gets the itch to leave.  The holidays are a stressful time for a lot of people, and between all the family obligations, spending money on gifts, and having vacation time but not being able to do anything because of said family obligations and no money leftover for a trip, I can tell he once again feels bored in the relationship and puts the blame squarely on me.

Hello, just found this site and hope to learn alot.  Here is my situation:   I am in a relationship with a 45 year old male with ADHD.  He takes meds (concerta) and I have only known him since he has been taking it (so I don't have any sense of whether the medications help him or not because this is the only way I have known him). Here is my problem:  He has a horrible potty mouth! He uses the "f" word at least twice in every sentence.  I've explained that it offends me. I've explained that it makes him seem hostile, inappropriate and/or uneducated.  It just rolls off his tongue endlessly.

Hi,there, I am a new member and I was wondering if anyone out there could give me some advice please. I will try to keep it short and sweet if possible. I met this guy who lives opposite me,I have know him for a few years just to say hello to in passing. A few weeks ago things developed between us and at first things appeared to be ok but then I noticed a few things didn't add up, I knew he was a recovering alcoholic but had completely transformed and turned his life around for the better.