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I have come a long way with my ADHD husband,things have been very very hard with him where I have been experiencing hair loss and itchy skin as a result of ALL the stress he has been putting me through.

some people would ask"then why don't you LEAVE him"and I would be lost for words as to why I can't leave this man.Maybe I am scared of being alone and without the man I love,but then again after the fact I am being abused in every which way possible.

Here we go again...

DH started Concerta in Oct 2010...by Dec I was ready to leave. It made him extremely irritable and hostile. I don't know how else to describe it other than it made him defensive and took away his willingness to accept any fault for our problems and he also stopped saying "I'm sorry" when he really needed to.

I'm new to this forum and have gleaned a LOT of helpful information as to how to help myself develop a healthy direction towards healing.  It's a relief to relate to people with similar if not exact situations as mine.  I'm a 47 year old woman recently diagnosed with late stage adrenal exhaustion that I have come to realize is effected by my relationship with my husband of 22 yrs of marriage.  Our relationship started 5 yrs prior to marriage so all in all we've been with each other for 27, basically half our lives!  (He) was diagnosed and was given meds for ADD one year ago and this is when

I see that there are a lot of spouse on here that are either married to an ADHD partner or they are the one that has ADHD and are married to a non-ADHD partner.  What about when you both partners in the marriage that have ADHD.  I never knew I had ADHD for years I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ocd.  I took meds they never worked, oh they made some things better but the underlying ADHD was never diagnosed.  The problem was that whem most people think of ADHD, they think of hyper off the wall kids who are in trouble all the time not me.

I've lived with my ADD husband for the past seven years. My daughter and grandson both have ADD (no biological relationship to my husband), and I've notice this phenomenon. I know we aren't supposed to generalize but I can't help it. Why can't you do anything when we ask?

I've spent the last week in bed.  I'm beginning to feel ADD is catching.  I have no energy left to help myself or my husband.  And no motivation at all.  The house is a mess, of course, so I get up for half and hour at a time to try to clean up, put things away etc.  Marriage counselling is useless if not harmful; she tries to make him feel guilty as a "motivater" to make him more responsible, even thought I've said that it doesn't work that way.  No anger left, just indifference.  At 70, I'm too old to start over.  Don't know what to do. 

Hello all...

first, Yay! I have a job interview coming up!  (I'll know exactly when sometime next week...)

Also - totally had my mind blown yesterday by a series of lectures by Dr. Russell Barkley, Ph.D at the Centre for ADD/ADHD Advocacy, Canada.  You can find these lectures on Vimeo.  'Jon' posted about them in the thread about selfishness.

I am always looking into things in addition to medication which help reduce symptoms in my son and me.  I am wondering if anyone has had any success with brain training software/subscriptions.  I just signed up for a trial period with Luminosity, but I don't know enough about the success rate, how it compares to other programs, etc...

Those of you who have read my posts before will remember, my posts were full of things other spouses of ADDers face-no job, no help around the house, etc. I finally got a legitimate "work from home" job and found myself, within a few weeks, working 60 or more hours a week. I spent hours working away on my computer listening to him watch whatever TV shows caught his fancy-mostly off-network reruns like Ghost Whisperer, NCIS, etc. And he did nothing to clean the house or make my life function better (except he did cook). This went on over a year. He never even looked for work.

My husband has a hard time asking for help.  I don't know if he is afraid to ask for help, very proud of his unwillingness to do so, or both.