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A song that says it all.

  I've always thought that music had a wonderful way of pulling emotion out of me and I came across an old favorite song that I hadn't heard since my wife's ADD diagnosis.  I listened, but this time the words hit a deeper, much sadder chord in my heart.  It says everything I'm feeling about the emotional roller coaster my/our lives have become in the past few years, how I have to say goodbye to the now unrealistic expectations of our relationship, and just how incredibly lonely I've now become.  Please.  Take a listen and let me know what you think about this song.....it brings me to tears

Help PLS...does it ever get any better?

I would like to get some tips/insights to my post as a newcomer to this situation. I have known my partner for a long number of years, we have been best friends since we were young. We are both now in our 30's and discovered that we have strong feelings for each other. This came as a shock to us as our friendship was always platonic and none of us was expecting this friendship to turn into love EVER.

Struggling Marriage

I take Adderall once a day in the mornings usually 10-15 mg vs the prescribed 30's or I stay up way too long.

I am American.  Wife is German.   She is not born in America with German descent, but moved from Germany 4 years ago.  She speaks good English.  I think it is important to point that out as I think there is a disconnect between the cultures and communication in general.

I think my spouse is using the book as a blame game tool against me.

A quick background on my relationship, married last spring after roughly 2 years of dating, we were only together for about 3 months before we jumped the gun and moved in together, then we were engaged 2 months later, all very fast and not what I was used to, but thought I just finally met the one. For months before the wedding, I felt I was making a huge mistake, but I didn't know where to turn and went through with it anyway. Everything changed after the wedding, and I thought I was depressed.

my ADD-i husband told me today he wants to go off his medicine

okay first a little  backstory.  My husband was diagnosed with ADD-i almost 2 years ago while deployed in Iraq.  When he is off his medicine and it's a "bad day" he's loud, compulsive= he say's things without thinking them through and buys things on a whim or without fore-thought,  he is a sensitive guy even more so without the help of his medicine which is  Ridalin and something else but I forget what it is...he's training with is reserve unit right now and took his medicine with him so I can't read the bottle.  But he takes the medicine for anxiety, depression, and focus.   He was about t

The Importance of Listening

I write this to anyone that may be starting out in their marriage. I am 40 yrs old and have been married for almost 22 yrs. If it wasn't for our 16 yr old daughter, I am sure my wife would be gone by now. I have known that I was ADD since we were married, but only really acknowledged it about 10 yrs ago after seeing the challenges my oldest daughter was facing. I started taking medication and it makes a world of difference with the anger and frustration. However, I have taken a toll on my wife. I moved us around 14 times in the first 11 yrs of marriage.

Behavioral component of ADHD treatment

Hi.  My husband has ADD or ADHD (he says its the former, but I think it might be the latter, because he cannot keep his hands or feet still when he's sitting down).  He has struggled with depression since he was a teenager but was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD just a few years ago.  He is on meds.  He loves them.  Not that he overindulges, but he's really into the pharmaceutical approach, trying this, trying that, saving meds from old prescriptions, taking nonprescription things (for example, melatonin and fish oil capsules).  I think this reflects his scientific training. 

What is fair?

Hello.  I so appreciate this forum.  Now more than ever.  My husband of almost 19 years does not have ADD, I do.  (Quick funny story: about 18 years ago I tuned into an Oprah show about adult ADD.  I was convinced my husband had this.  But as I watched I realized they were describing everything about me.)  Anyway... H (husband) and I have been separated since 9/10 (but had been living in the same house up until 8/11).  We have 3 kids.  Our oldest will be 18 in a couple of weeks.  He has ADD + mood disorder (mostly depression) + asperger trait's.

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