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So, my wife and I have been arguing much less often.  In fact - hardly at all.  And, we have been having more quality time together.  We both remarked on this yesterday - that we are enjoying that we are getting along better.  This morning, she said "So, why do you think we have been getting along so well.  Have you been trying harder?  I said - Yes.  She said she wasn't doing anything differently.  And I think she was about to ask me what I was doing differently.  And I wasn't sure how to answer that, so I said - I really don't want to talk about this right now.  She said "Hmmmmm."  My gue

My wife seems to often have what seem to be double standards.  She will become angry with me for doing exactly the same thing that she does, and then I get angry because I feel like I I have been treated "unfairly."  A recent example is this:  My wife often does not respond to me when she is playing a game or reading something on her iPhone.  I have told her how I feel when she does that, to no avail.  So I have learned not to take it personally.  The other night I was in bed playing a game on MY iPhone and she cuddled up to me.  I continued playing the game.  And at the time I was aware th

I can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do. I've read most of the posts on this board and several books, but I really have no idea what to do anymore. It's a LONG story, but I attempted suicide twice a few months ago. There was one horrible, nasty fight a month after the second attempt, but there has been no verbal abuse since then. Why do I stay? A loaded question.

Hi guys,

Hi all, 

I’m new to this site and very thankful to have found it, perhaps too late to move forward with my spouse of 17 years, but I really want to try.

It's been a while since I was here.  I am ABSOLUTELY convinced my ADD spouse has Borderline Personality Disorder.  I am emotionally detached (out of self protection) from my wife because of her BPD.  I wish it were easier to just walk away from the marriage.

I just saw a post from Dr. Hallowell re ADD spouses with other disorders.  It was posted about a year ago, suggested that someone like me seek "support groups" but listed none.

Is anyone else like me out there who has suggestions?  I love my wife but I'm not a masochist. 

MAP, Esq.

I have been in therapy for over six months after getting busted for lying to my wife (of nearly 8 years) about my pornography use and nearly ruining my marriage.  Again.  In therapy, I discovered that I likely have ADD.  My therapist seems to think I'm on the cusp, though, and not hyper, and so doesn't want to recommend medication, especially since I haven't used pornography once in over seven months.  My physician, as well, is hesitant to prescribe meds since they are a controlled substance I would be taking for the rest of my life.  

As you've read me whining more than enough, sometimes it's difficult for people with ADHD traits to read through long posts. Also, there are a lot of non-ADHDer posts, and it's sometimes difficult finding the ones from/for those of us with ADHD. So, to help readers like me who have ADHD, I've created a delicious account for the purpose of tagging comments from the ADHD folks. I'll probably add other helpful links also, but for now, I'm going to, as I read them (and when I remember to), tag the comments from the ADHD crowd as "addie" (my husband is an aspie, so I'm going to be an addie).

My husband makes up rules that drive me nuts. They mostly seem convenient to him.

I am not actually married but I love my partner very much and I want her to be well. 

I believe that everyone is on a sort of spectrum when it comes to ADHD or ADD. I have attention deficite problems myself and I think our societies functions, demands, and expectations create this kind of behavior in everyone to a degree.