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I separated from him a week ago. 

I’ve made my kids cry; it’s the last thing on earth I wanted to do, but I had reached a point where I wanted to die. And when I realised that I was really there, it had gone that far, I also realised that what I was doing, staying with him despite all my unhappiness, was pointless: my kids needed a living, functioning mum more than they needed her to be married to their dad. So I told him we were separating and I packed a bag.

A strong marriage is built on understanding, communication, and mutual support. However, mental health challenges can sometimes create obstacles in even the most loving relationships. Here’s how couples can navigate these challenges together:

Have been reading up some on emotional safety. It’s apparently what a person feels when they and their emotions are fully accepted, by a person or a group of people. 

I struggle to understand what happened in my ADD marriage. At the end, noone felt emotionally safe. I ruined his safety by being critical for decades before his diagnosis. But despite conflict and trust erosion, I believe on the whole he’s made me more emotionally safe than anybody else. 

Learning more about ADHD, and how I fit into this wide ranging subject, is helping me understand why I am the way I am. It also helps explains why some things work for me, and some things don't ( or not so well ) in managing myself, and my personal well being. This again is me, working on my strengths. 

This is my first time posting here. My ADHD husband and I have been together for 7 years (married 5) and just recently discovered he most likely has ADHD. We are not able to get a professional evaluation and consultation, since they are very expensive in my country and due to our BIG debt, we are living paycheck to paycheck, so I'm not able to save enough money for now.

I woke up this morning with the realisation ive/we've been putting bandaids on òur train wreck of a marriage. I kinda knew it deep down but for some reason today, i felt compelled to journal this morning (somethig i dont really enjoy or do much). 

I've become used to angry outbursts towards me from adhd partner exactly as others describe on here. Sudden. Unexpected. Pointless. I find myself in confrontation and no idea how it has occurred. 

Ive also watched him kick off at other men over disagreements, things he didn't like or Road rage. 

But then I watched him kick off at a woman half his age and from my POV he looked like a bully. Although I get treated like that weekly, it was horrifying to watch. He always thinks his reasons are valid and reasonable too, nothing will ever show him otherwise. 

Living with ADHD can be challenging, not only for the individual affected but also for their partner. If your partner has ADHD, you might find yourself navigating emotional highs and lows, impulsivity, forgetfulness, and difficulties with focus. This thread is dedicated to sharing tips, strategies, and insights on how to best support your partner while maintaining your own well-being.

Key Discussion Points:

Anger and frustration are common emotional experiences for individuals with ADHD. The condition affects impulse control, emotional regulation, and frustration tolerance, making it easier to become overwhelmed by strong emotions. Triggers may include difficulty with focus, forgetfulness, sensory overload, or feeling misunderstood. These emotional responses can impact relationships, work, and self-esteem. However, strategies such as mindfulness, cognitive behavioral techniques, structured routines, and professional support can help manage these emotions effectively.

There’s one fact about my unfortunate two-decade ADD marriage that still makes it hard to accept divorce.