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For years, my sister, to me, has been so chatty that I hardly get a word in.  By the time she takes a breath, we are off topic of what I might have responded to earlier in her monologue.  It sometimes makes me edgy.  Yet, the other day she said something to me that has me thinking,  she said, our older sister is not supporting her in her new widowhood the same way she supported our oldest sister through "entertaining her with talking".  

I joined this forum because it was by far the best I have found, with help and support for spouses of adults with ADHD. and as myself and OH have lived together for over 16 years as man and wife, we are married except for that piece of paper - therein lies the problem. I hope you will still accept me on this forum - it helps so much to know that others feel as I do and go through similar experiences.

Does your partner 1) acknowledge the disagreement and that you might be correct; 2) tell you you're wrong; 3) attack you; or 4) some combination? If your partner does or might have ADHD, do you think the reaction has something to do with ADHD or do you think it's a separate aspect of his or her personality? I'm assertive and I like to be right but I'm also willing to acknowledge when I'm wrong. Former partner is not very assertive, likes to be right, and has become more willing to acknowledge when he is wrong.

I am a non ADHD spouse. My husband says he has probably had ADHD since childhood, but has never been diagnosed. He is trying to self-manage any less than desirable traits that he is aware of. Brief background – he was married, divorced, remarried then widowed. I was widowed. We met and married in our mid 50’s. During courtship he was so very fun and treated me like a queen! After about a year he started losing the ability to filter some unnecessary hurtful commentary and there were some angry outbursts.

I don't know if I can do this anymore. There, I said it. How nice it is to be able to say it to people who not only understand my life but are living it too, where you wake up one morning to see boxes that haven't been unpacked from when you moved... 5 years ago. See empty toilet rolls on the floor when the bin is a meter away. See overflowing rubbish, and recycling, stacks of computers and monitors in the hallway, see a new box of 100 assorted and tangled wires appear in the man room (that tip is not an office anymore).

I really had a bad moment  just a bit ago.  A blender that my late husband bought me is giving me trouble.  I have been trying to really clean it and I cant seem to get it clean.  I think maybe its just so old its falling apart.  Thing is - I use the thing religiously and am very attached to it (I know I should not be - its just a small kitchen appliance...

H has evolved into being a constant whiner.  It started a few years ago and has become worse.  In fact, he's lost his golf partner because of the whining.

 

My husband spends all his time launching financially unviable projects with big ideas. He doesn't earn any income and I can't afford to pay for his unreasonable behaviour anymore. I can't stand that he won't listen to me and stop launching over and over again the same project which is always doomed to failure because he doesn't have adequate investment and is too disorganised to manage anything. He just won't listen and I can't bear the thought of taking money away from my son's university fund so that he can run again with another crazy project. Help!