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H can't pay his bills but he can buy me a $300 sweater!

Tue Jan 6th, 2015 - 11:19am by Anonymous

Forum: 
Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I am blown away! So H didn't get me anything for my birthday and then yesterday, about 1 1/2 weeks after my birthday, I get a package. I open it and find a pullover, half zip-up sweater he got for me. I mean it's nice, but it's not anything I would have bought for myself or looked twice at. I look up the website and find the sweater and it is $318!!! A SWEATER!! It is from Norway and made of 100% wool, but why on earth would he spend that much money on a sweater for me when he still can't pay his total share of the bills?!

Is there a way to help an ADHD Spouse to become more self-aware?

Sun Jan 4th, 2015 - 4:31pm by overwhelmedwife

Forum: 
Communication with ADHD

My H is not self-aware at all. First of all, he talks constantly, unless he is distracted by TV, the internet or something else. When he's distracted, then he "allows" silence. When he's not distracted, then I better be "at the ready" to listen to his non-stop drivel. I relish the times that he's at the gym, but since he works from home, he's around 24/7. I run a business from home as well. He has little/no respect for the time I must spend on my business.

Sorting it all out

Sun Jan 4th, 2015 - 12:40pm by I'm So Exhausted

Forum: 
Anger, Frustration & ADHD

Today I was trouble-shooting my own Non-ADHD brain.  

What I have determined, at least for today, LOL!, is this reality:  I do not like everything being a battle of the wits.  I do not like being in the spot of defending what I want or like.  I will not explain and explain and explain my wants, hopes and desires. I will not abandon my desires based solely on the fact that it causes discomfort for my spouse.   

Our yard is 10 acres.

I am a college student.

My spouse if a self employed construction worker.

I no longer wish to be passive.

Sun Jan 4th, 2015 - 9:29am by Hoffe frau

Forum: 
Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I have been with my fiance for 5 years now. I have stayed quiet because I do not like confrontation or conflict. But honestly, I do not always feel cherished, loved, honored or respected. Instead, there are times that I feel unappreciated, lonely, betrayed, distrustful, and angry. I have been holding in a lot of anger and hurt feelings for quite some time. I have come up with every excuse in the book not to talk about it. I can no longer not talk about it. It only makes me more resentful. I know that I have let too much go and I do feel horrible for letting so much build up.

How do you move toward the future when so many mistakes in the past have been made?

Sun Jan 4th, 2015 - 4:22am by Anonymous

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Support for the ADHD Partner

I'm sorry for the length of this post, but I have 25 yrs of marriage to cover. I have ADHD, diagnosed for ten yrs and take meds that help tremendously. My wife and I recently came to the end of our marriage and have now decided to reconcile instead of getting a divorce. We love each other very much and its the only thing holding us together. For several years, I made the typical ADHD mistakes of moving us around for something better and it took a toll. We moved 14 times in 11 years. I have always worked hard (not smart) to provide a nice lifestyle for my family.

H's car got broken into...so why am I the only one who is worried about it?!

Fri Jan 2nd, 2015 - 8:24am by Anonymous

Forum: 
Anger, Frustration & ADHD

We took our trash out to the curb yesterday afternoon and upon doing that, my husband took a look in his car, which was sitting on the street, and noticed that his driver's seat was leaned way back further than he had left it. He opened his car door, which was unlocked, and saw that his glove box and center console were completely emptied of their contents. He said he wasn't sure what all was gone, but for sure the car registration and paperwork, his extra car key and his only set of keys to his trailer.

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