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January 28, 2011 I wrote a letter to my ADHD spouse that I would no longer be controlled by his anger.  What I thought at that point in time was the problem in our relationship was me - that I bent and swayed and yielded and allowed myself to be controlled by anger.  

So I stopped the participation in the cycle of anger.  When he tried to yank my chain, I did not yank back.  When he started to argue, I walked away.  When he was rude to me, I stated I would not accept being treated that way, and walked away.  

Any time I express a need for myself my ADHD husband calls me selfish.  It doesn't matter what it is, I am labeled selfish and self centered. It has been this way our entire marriage and I am tired of it.  If I say "Please stop spending money randomly. Every time you do this I have to recalculate everything", I am selfish.  If I say "Please fix the faucet that has been inoperable for 8 months", I am selfish. Any concern I have, need I have, and most certainly any want I have, if I express it I am selfish.  He only sees what he thinks is necessary. 

It has been a serious roller coaster ride with my ADHD girlfriend.

I don't know what to do anymore. I feel very alone and she does things at the spare of the moment. I want to be with her, but she will be busy with this or that. I respect her space, yet sometimes she would say things that would be hurtful and the only I could do is walk away.

She takes meds but not on regular basis...she has posters of goals and plans all over the bedroom. All I want from her is to love me but it seem secondary to her.

Painful!

My wife and I have been married for about 2 yrs now and the last 7 months have been really difficult. I lied to her over our finances. She would ask if we were doing ok and I would just tell here that we were to avoid going into any detail. She found out, I wasn't even man enough to come and tell her myself.

How much is known about post-traumatic stress disorder and ADHD, or living with someone with ADHD? I've read about post traumatic stress disorder and I have a lot of the symptoms of it, after living with undiagnosed and undertreated ADHD? Maybe it's just a coincidence, but I'm just asking. Anyone else known anything?

This is my first time posting, though I've read through a lot of the articles on this site in the past. My husband of 10 years was diagnosed with adult ADD last year, and he's slowly gained a lot of insight into his condition. I'm fortunate to have a loving, conscientious husband...everything is great -- except, argh, the ADD! I feel battered down by it and I'm so, so tired...

I am a husband who lives with ADHD and I have only recently been diagnosed. I have been reading through this forum to help find some direction and strategies to help my wife.

Hi there,

My boyfriend of 9 months now is ADHD. At first, the relationship was wonderful and he was charming and respected me.

It seems that now he blows up at every little thing I have to say or if I do something he doesn't like, instead of just talking

to me, he spouts off mean horrible things and gets me crying. I know I'm not perfect and I'm an emotional person anyway

, but I feel like he plays on my insecurites somehow by making me turn into this crying little girl. Then of course after he calms